Words About Love And Marriage For Your Wedding Ceremony
Your wedding ceremony is about your love for each other and how you will express that in your marriage. It can be different for every couple. This may also take the place of a traditional sermon in a religious wedding ceremony.
About Love and Marriage Option 1
But what do we mean by love? When we love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface, to the qualities, which make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be seen, and known, as we are known to no other. One who loves us, gives us a unique gift: a piece of ourselves, but a piece that only they could give us. We who love, can look at each other’s life and say, “I touched his life,” or, “I touched her life,” just as an artist might say, “I touched this canvas.” “Those brushstrokes in the corner of this magnificent mural, those are mine. I was a part of this life, and it is a part of me.” Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration, like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together. The secret of love and marriage is to be in love and in trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. The true art of married life is an inner spiritual journey. It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both. It is, ultimately, the emergence of the Highest Selves of each person. Marriage is a supreme sharing of experience, and an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyous union of two people whose comradeship and mutual understanding have flowered in romance. Today Bride and Groom proclaim their love and commitment to the world, and we gather But what do we mean by love? When we love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface, to the qualities, which make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be seen, and known, as we are known to no other. One who loves us, gives us a unique gift: a piece of ourselves, but a piece that only they could give us. We who love, can look at each other’s life and say, “I touched his life,” or, “I touched her life,” just as an artist might say, “I touched this canvas.” “Those brushstrokes in the corner of this magnificent mural, those are mine. I was a part of this life, and it is a part of me.” Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration, like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together. The secret of love and marriage is to be in love and in trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. The true art of married life is an inner spiritual journey. It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both. It is, ultimately, the emergence of the Highest Selves of each person. Marriage is a supreme sharing of experience, and an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyous union of two people whose comradeship and mutual understanding have flowered in romance. Today Bride and Groom proclaim their love and commitment to the world, and we gatherBut what do we mean by love? When we love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface, to the qualities, which make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be seen, and known, as we are known to no other. One who loves us, gives us a unique gift: a piece of ourselves, but a piece that only they could give us. We who love, can look at each other’s life and say, “I touched his life,” or, “I touched her life,” just as an artist might say, “I touched this canvas.” “Those brushstrokes in the corner of this magnificent mural, those are mine. I was a part of this life, and it is a part of me.” Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration, like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together. The secret of love and marriage is to be in love and in trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. The true art of married life is an inner spiritual journey. It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both. It is, ultimately, the emergence of the Highest Selves of each person. Marriage is a supreme sharing of experience, and an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyous union of two people whose comradeship and mutual understanding have flowered in romance. Today Bride and Groom proclaim their love and commitment to the world, and we gather here to rejoice, with and for them, in the new life they now undertake together.
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About Love and Marriage Option 2
You have come here today, Bride and Groom because you believe that by being together your lives will be better and more productive than they would be apart. In marriage, a new perspective is created with the joining of male and female views of life. Through this partnership, each partner becomes stronger, each becomes wiser and each becomes more loving. But marriage is a garden, which needs to be tended every day: the benefits we receive through marriage are not free. If we don’t make time to tell our partner how much we value what we have together, we will begin to take each other for granted and lost the very special quality that we originally united to enjoy. The importance of marriage to humans is so great, that it is the oldest rite or ritual of any kind recorded in history; it’s scope so great that it is virtually the only custom recognized by every human government and religion. It is into this dynamic and wonderful state of partnership that you two come, today, to be joined.
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About Love and Marriage Option 3
Love has brought Bride and Groom together. But what do we mean by love? When we love, we see things other people do not. We see beneath the surface to the qualities, which make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be known, as we are known to no other. We who love, can look at each other’s life and say, “I touched his life,” or, “I touched her life,” just as an artist might say, “I touched this canvas.” “Those brushstrokes in the comer of this magnificent mural, those are mine. I was a part of this life, and it is a part of me.” Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration, like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together. The secret of love and marriage is to be in love and in trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. The true art of married life is an inner spiritual journey. It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both It is, ultimately, the emergence of the Highest Selves of each person.
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About Love And Marriage Option 4
Today there will be no dearly beloved, no betrothed, and no ancient rhyme of the married. Today there are no dead languages to solemnize vows that are very much alive and will remain so for a lifetime. Today promises become permanent and friends become family. However, this day is not about the words spoken or the rings exchanged, nor is it about grand pronouncements and recessional marches.
This day – the day of Bride and Groom’s wedding – is about love. It's been said, “If love is not all, then it is nothing: this principle, and its opposite, collide down all the years of my breathless tale.”
Bride and Groom, your breathless tale is about to begin.
If love is not all, then it is nothing.
Its opposite – If love is all, then it is everything – is going to be the basis for every aspect of your relationship. All you have to do is simply love one another and that love shows through in everything you do for one another, how you treat each other, in good times and bad. Love isn’t just a word; it’s an action. Love isn’t something you say, it’s something you do. Love is genuine, honest, and open, compassionate and kind, passionate and blind, love doesn’t know space or time, nor look through jealous eyes, and in the modified words of Paul in his letter to the Corinthians, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never dies.”
There are many different kinds of love, almost if not all of which are represented here today. There is romantic love, the love of parents and children, of brothers and sisters and family, and love among friends. Not only do Bride and Groom love one another romantically – and they do, you can see it in every look, every touch, every moment they’re together – they also love one another as friends. In fact, they’re best friends, constantly giggling and taunting and teasing and very plainly and obviously having fun together. That love and enjoyment of each other as best friends will sustain them through this marriage. In addition, the love collectively in this room, from friends and family, will help sustain and support the promises they make today.
All of us here will help solidify this bond, as these two individuals are joined as husband and wife.This new journey will be at times richly rewarding and extremely difficult, but, most importantly, it will be a journey you take together.
Marriage is much more than your signatures on a legal contract. You are promising, in front of all these people you love, that you want to be with each other and only each other for the rest of your lives, and that you will do everything in your power to honor the promises you are making here today.For their part, the people who love you will also do everything in their power to try to help you hold up your end of the bargain.
This day – the day of Bride and Groom’s wedding – is about love. It's been said, “If love is not all, then it is nothing: this principle, and its opposite, collide down all the years of my breathless tale.”
Bride and Groom, your breathless tale is about to begin.
If love is not all, then it is nothing.
Its opposite – If love is all, then it is everything – is going to be the basis for every aspect of your relationship. All you have to do is simply love one another and that love shows through in everything you do for one another, how you treat each other, in good times and bad. Love isn’t just a word; it’s an action. Love isn’t something you say, it’s something you do. Love is genuine, honest, and open, compassionate and kind, passionate and blind, love doesn’t know space or time, nor look through jealous eyes, and in the modified words of Paul in his letter to the Corinthians, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never dies.”
There are many different kinds of love, almost if not all of which are represented here today. There is romantic love, the love of parents and children, of brothers and sisters and family, and love among friends. Not only do Bride and Groom love one another romantically – and they do, you can see it in every look, every touch, every moment they’re together – they also love one another as friends. In fact, they’re best friends, constantly giggling and taunting and teasing and very plainly and obviously having fun together. That love and enjoyment of each other as best friends will sustain them through this marriage. In addition, the love collectively in this room, from friends and family, will help sustain and support the promises they make today.
All of us here will help solidify this bond, as these two individuals are joined as husband and wife.This new journey will be at times richly rewarding and extremely difficult, but, most importantly, it will be a journey you take together.
Marriage is much more than your signatures on a legal contract. You are promising, in front of all these people you love, that you want to be with each other and only each other for the rest of your lives, and that you will do everything in your power to honor the promises you are making here today.For their part, the people who love you will also do everything in their power to try to help you hold up your end of the bargain.
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About Love And Marriage Option 5
Bride and Groom have chosen this setting in which to be married because it provides an appropriate backdrop for the public affirmation of their love. The two of them view marriage as a coming together at all levels of being – mind, body, and spirit. A marital commitment includes the willingness to be open and vulnerable, and the courage to take risks. Marriage is a conscious act of will. To remain in marriage we must continually renew our will to be married. Marital partners accept the challenges that living together in love offer. They decide that they will face the fears that are a necessary part of establishing and nurturing an intimate relationship. Bride and Groom, the two of you have made the commitment to create and recreate this conscious partnership. Those of us who are married or in relationships may take this moment to consciously reaffirm our commitment to our partners and ourselves. Marriage consists of entrusting our deepest selves into the loving care of another. It is a public and legal act to be sure. It is also an emotional and spiritual act. The spiritual aspect of marriage must be embraced openly, seriously, and completely for the marriage to endure. Bride and Groom commit themselves today to each other in sacred trust.They promise to embrace conflict as well as peace; to work as well as play; to struggle as well as coast; to give as well as receive; and to be with, stay with, and move toward one another.
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About Love and Marriage Option 6
Marriage is a supreme sharing, perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyful uniting of two people whose care and affection and understanding have flowered into a deep and abiding love. Those who take its sacred vows have their lives blended together into one, as the waters of two rivers are joined when they come together to form an even greater one. A true spiritual marriage is an act of metamorphosis, a profound mystery of creation and rebirth, as two become one. It is not a giving up or loss of oneself, but rather a giving over of oneself to something greater-a transformation of self in which each one can say, “I am no longer only I but also we.” It is a process in which each can be challenged to discover new possibilities in themselves and each other. In such a marriage, the wedding ceremony is the gateway into this mystery. For the lives the two of you have lived up until this moment are, in some sense, now truly completed and over. Together you now live within the creation of something wholly new and transcendent, something which has never existed before-your miraculous marriage-an expression that is at once public and private, precious, sacred, and truly unique to the two of you. In this act, you open yourselves to a fuller experience and expression of the great, vast miracle of love. No ceremony can create your marriage. Only you can do that-through love, patience, dedication, perseverance-through talking and listening and trying to understand-through helping and supporting and believing in each other-through learning to forgive, learning to respect and appreciate your differences, and learning to make the important things matter and to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you have made to begin a new life today as husband and wife.
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About Love and Marriage Option 7
Marriage is the beginning of a new life, a chance at fulfilling long-held dreams, and an opportunity for great personal and spiritual growth. Marriage endures through the ages of trends and fads. Marriage thrives, and continues to live as a promise of a beautiful dream come true. As long as individuals are drawn together by God, marriage will be a natural unfolding of that relationship. Feelings come alive at a wedding. Great happiness. Some sadness. Apprehension. And sometimes pure relief! There is an acute awareness that something special, something that goes to the very heart of life, is about to happen. Something is gone forever, and something is born, brand-new and tender. Something to be nurtured and cared for, protected and cherished, challenged and strengthened–your never-before-created marriage. Each of you brings gifts to the other today. Gifts of hope and laughter, focus and seriousness of purpose. Sensitivity and recognition of the beautiful and the profound. Since childhood, you have searched for and dreamed about that special someone who would embody and express the gifts you now stand ready to give and to receive. But these gifts are not to be yours alone. A strong and resilient marriage is not an escape from the world but a contribution to it. Bride and Groom, may you now combine and strengthen your gifts, to be offered as a distinct and beautiful gift to the world. For the world is in need of the beautiful, the good and the holy and nothing is better suited to evoke that than a good marriage. And now you stand before this loving community of family and friends, ready to acknowledge to God and to the world: this is my beloved, the one with whom I choose to create the rest of my life. May you both create, with God, a piece of heaven on earth.
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About Love And Marriage Option 8
These words were written by the one and only Mr. Fred Rogers. You are never too old and it is never too late to hear his message.
When we love a person, we accept him or her exactly as is: the lovely with the unlovely, the strong along with the fearful, the true mixed in with the facade. And of course the only way we can do it is by accepting ourselves that way. ... It’s what’s inside us that matters most. You can really love someone else when you really love yourself. ... As human beings our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has or ever will have. Something inside which is unique to all time. It’s our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression. ... Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun, like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now, and to go on caring, even through times that may bring us pain.
When we love a person, we accept him or her exactly as is: the lovely with the unlovely, the strong along with the fearful, the true mixed in with the facade. And of course the only way we can do it is by accepting ourselves that way. ... It’s what’s inside us that matters most. You can really love someone else when you really love yourself. ... As human beings our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has or ever will have. Something inside which is unique to all time. It’s our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression. ... Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun, like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now, and to go on caring, even through times that may bring us pain.
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About Love And Marriage Option 9
From Tuesdays With Morrie
Author, Mitch Albom
"Still,"Morrie said, "there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike "And the biggest one of those values, Mitch?" Yes? "Your belief in the importance of your marriage." He sniffed, then closed his eyes for a moment. "Personally," he sighed, his eyes still closed, "I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you’re missing a lot if you don’t try it." He ended the subject by quoting a poem he believed in like a prayer: "Love each other or perish."
Author, Mitch Albom
"Still,"Morrie said, "there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike "And the biggest one of those values, Mitch?" Yes? "Your belief in the importance of your marriage." He sniffed, then closed his eyes for a moment. "Personally," he sighed, his eyes still closed, "I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you’re missing a lot if you don’t try it." He ended the subject by quoting a poem he believed in like a prayer: "Love each other or perish."
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About Love and Marriage Option 10
Love Is
Author, Susan Polis Schutz
Love is . . . Being happy for the other person when they are happy,
Being sad for the person when they are sad,
Being together in good times, And being together in bad times.
Love is the source of Strength.
Love is . . . Being honest with yourself at all times,
Being honest with the other person at all times,
Telling, listening, respecting the truth, And never pretending.
Love is the source of Reality.
Love is an understanding so complete that you feel as if you are a part of the other person, Accepting the other person just the way they are,
And not trying to change them to be something else.
Love is the source of Unity.
Love is the freedom to pursue your own desires while sharing your experiences with the other person,
The growth of one individual alongside of and together with the growth of another individual.
Love is the source of Success.
Love is the excitement of planning things together,
the excitement of doing things together.
Love is the source of the Future.
Love is the fury of the storm, The calm in the rainbow.
Love is the source of Passion.
Love is giving and taking in a daily situation,
being patient with each other’s needs and desires.
Love is the source of Sharing.
Love is knowing that the other person will always be with you
regardless of what happens,
Missing the other person when they are away
but remaining near in heart at all times.
Love is the source of Security.
Love is the source of Life!
Author, Susan Polis Schutz
Love is . . . Being happy for the other person when they are happy,
Being sad for the person when they are sad,
Being together in good times, And being together in bad times.
Love is the source of Strength.
Love is . . . Being honest with yourself at all times,
Being honest with the other person at all times,
Telling, listening, respecting the truth, And never pretending.
Love is the source of Reality.
Love is an understanding so complete that you feel as if you are a part of the other person, Accepting the other person just the way they are,
And not trying to change them to be something else.
Love is the source of Unity.
Love is the freedom to pursue your own desires while sharing your experiences with the other person,
The growth of one individual alongside of and together with the growth of another individual.
Love is the source of Success.
Love is the excitement of planning things together,
the excitement of doing things together.
Love is the source of the Future.
Love is the fury of the storm, The calm in the rainbow.
Love is the source of Passion.
Love is giving and taking in a daily situation,
being patient with each other’s needs and desires.
Love is the source of Sharing.
Love is knowing that the other person will always be with you
regardless of what happens,
Missing the other person when they are away
but remaining near in heart at all times.
Love is the source of Security.
Love is the source of Life!
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About Love and Marriage Option 11
From Love
Leo Buscaglia
“In discussing love, it would be well to consider the
following premises:
One cannot give what he does not possess.
To give love you must possess love.
One cannot teach what he does not understand.
To teach love you must comprehend love.
One cannot know what he does not study..
To study love you must live in love.
One cannot appreciate what he does not recognize.
To recognize love you must be receptive to love.
One cannot have doubt about that which he wishes to
trust. To trust love you must be convinced of love.
One cannot admit what he does not yield to.
To yield to love you must be vulnerable to love.
One cannot live what he does not dedicate himself to.
To dedicate yourself to love you must be forever growing in
love.”
Leo Buscaglia
“In discussing love, it would be well to consider the
following premises:
One cannot give what he does not possess.
To give love you must possess love.
One cannot teach what he does not understand.
To teach love you must comprehend love.
One cannot know what he does not study..
To study love you must live in love.
One cannot appreciate what he does not recognize.
To recognize love you must be receptive to love.
One cannot have doubt about that which he wishes to
trust. To trust love you must be convinced of love.
One cannot admit what he does not yield to.
To yield to love you must be vulnerable to love.
One cannot live what he does not dedicate himself to.
To dedicate yourself to love you must be forever growing in
love.”
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About Love and Marriage 12
The Art of Marriage
Wilferd A. Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage, the little things are the big things…
It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding, and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner. It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
Wilferd A. Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage, the little things are the big things…
It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding, and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner. It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
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About Love and Marriage Option 13
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Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. Marriage is not a one size fits all blue-print where you can insert all the right components, flip a switch and expect perfection. When you think about it, what exactly would that be? What is a perfect marriage? The real questions is, how you define YOUR perfect marriage? You may have one vision of what that is today, on your wedding day, and that vision will most likely change over the course of your lifetime. It will change as you each grow as individuals - Because personal growth is inevitable. Your marriage is made up of who you are as individuals and who you are together, therefore, the act of marriage and the state of being married is something that will define each of you going forward. Remember that the two of you together and better than the sum of your parts and there is divine serendipity at work!
Bride and Groom, there are many pieces of tried and true advice that we can give you today as you enter into marriage. We could read them as a text book, as many ceremoniously do on a wedding day or we can define them in more personal ways.
We know that the basis of every good relationship is love. But what exactly is love? Is it the feeling of being in love or is it an action? We know, as you are standing here, holding hands, love is definitely a feeling! It’s a feeling that you have had since the beginning of your relationship and a feeling you are going to want to keep alive for the rest of your lives! I mean, who doesn’t want to feel love? Too often, I think, we try to negate the feeling of love and talk about how marriage is hard work! The last thing I want you to think about today is how your marriage is going to be hard or work. I mean, why would you want that? It’s the magical feeling that you have when you are together that you want to keep alive. There is a difference between work and action. We are always in motion, always taking action. When you are acting out of respect for love and taking action to more fully experience love - it may be a challenge at times but never hard and arduous work!
One of the most popular quotes about love shared at a wedding is from the Bible in Paul’s first letter to the Corintians. Paul defines love as an action and he actually tells us many things that we should not do because they would be unloving - He tells us not to be proud or boastful, envious, rude, self-seeking or easily angered. He also continues with don’t keep records of wrongdoings or delight in evil. Now, this is all good advice. But, honestly, constant positive actions are much easier to do than trying to decide what NOT to do. He says that Love is patient, kind, always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres and rejoices with the truth. So do those things!! An honest act of love is an extremely powerful force.
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. Marriage is not a one size fits all blue-print where you can insert all the right components, flip a switch and expect perfection. When you think about it, what exactly would that be? What is a perfect marriage? The real questions is, how you define YOUR perfect marriage? You may have one vision of what that is today, on your wedding day, and that vision will most likely change over the course of your lifetime. It will change as you each grow as individuals - Because personal growth is inevitable. Your marriage is made up of who you are as individuals and who you are together, therefore, the act of marriage and the state of being married is something that will define each of you going forward. Remember that the two of you together and better than the sum of your parts and there is divine serendipity at work!
Bride and Groom, there are many pieces of tried and true advice that we can give you today as you enter into marriage. We could read them as a text book, as many ceremoniously do on a wedding day or we can define them in more personal ways.
We know that the basis of every good relationship is love. But what exactly is love? Is it the feeling of being in love or is it an action? We know, as you are standing here, holding hands, love is definitely a feeling! It’s a feeling that you have had since the beginning of your relationship and a feeling you are going to want to keep alive for the rest of your lives! I mean, who doesn’t want to feel love? Too often, I think, we try to negate the feeling of love and talk about how marriage is hard work! The last thing I want you to think about today is how your marriage is going to be hard or work. I mean, why would you want that? It’s the magical feeling that you have when you are together that you want to keep alive. There is a difference between work and action. We are always in motion, always taking action. When you are acting out of respect for love and taking action to more fully experience love - it may be a challenge at times but never hard and arduous work!
One of the most popular quotes about love shared at a wedding is from the Bible in Paul’s first letter to the Corintians. Paul defines love as an action and he actually tells us many things that we should not do because they would be unloving - He tells us not to be proud or boastful, envious, rude, self-seeking or easily angered. He also continues with don’t keep records of wrongdoings or delight in evil. Now, this is all good advice. But, honestly, constant positive actions are much easier to do than trying to decide what NOT to do. He says that Love is patient, kind, always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres and rejoices with the truth. So do those things!! An honest act of love is an extremely powerful force.
